vindication
Last night I got a phone call from a guy that every girl should hope to get. It was one of those things that you think will never happen, but then it does, and you just want to do fist-pumps and leap around your apartment. At least thats what I did.
Background: I dated a guy 4 1/2 years younger than me from about the end of January to the end of March. He was clueless as to how to “date” but we had fun together and good chemistry. He really put in a minimum of effort which resulted in me dropping his ass like a bad habit after just too much frustration.
Last night he called me after having been off of my radar for weeks. He had texted and called me a few weeks ago dying to talk to me, knowing I was mad at him. I finally called him back as a courtesy to end things. He never returned my call.
Last night he finally called. Essentially it was 20 minutes of him apologizing left and right. It was awesome. Some highlights and excerpts include:
him: “I take full responsibility for fucking things up with you. I was selfish and wanted to do what I wanted to do”
him: “I am the biggest asshole in the tri-state area. Not the entire country, but the tri-state area for sure”
him: “If you wanted to slap me or punch me, I totally deserve it and I’d get down on my knees to let you”
me: “I never assumed we were exclusive, nor did I think we were heading there. And if you really want me to be honest with you, I was dating other people the entire time I was dating you!”
me: “I don’t hate you. But if you ever want any future contact with me, it will come from you initiating. I will never contact you”
him: “If you want to go out for brunch or lunch or drinks and end this in person thats fine, but if you don’t want to, I totally understand”
me: “No, I’m pretty good with this conversation. I don’t think we need to end whats already been ended for weeks.”
I fully accepted his apology and hold no animosity towards him. It took a lot of balls to call me (he admitted he’d been putting it off for weeks) and to admit that he was in the wrong. It’s one of those calls that you always hope to get from someone, but almost never do. It felt so good.